I was searching for a metaphor for a situation where one fears a
lot to step forward towards the thing he has strongest urge for because of his
tenacious attitude towards having a peaceful and calm life for the people who
might get affected. What you do, what you not and what you intend to do are
influenced by the people you care for that keeps you in the perimeter of righteousness.
But who has to decide that who is right and who is not? With different mindsets
backed up by the different bringing and brought-ups, society is surviving with
a number of divides. Particularly India where freedom to think and express is
still a far- fetched aspiration of young Indians, suffers with the consequences
that are stealing the soul of an efficient nation.
Domestic violence is an activity that tears apart the very
meaning of home which splinters into lodge of sorrow, discontent, depression
and despair and is mainly a trademark of men in the affected sections of the
society using power over the ones they consider weaker. The question of
superiority among manhood and womanhood has been in the debates since ages and
since ages people have changed, generations have come and gone, revolutions
have ushered, transformations have happened: few results appear on the surface
but core of the social thinking is still in the claws of Patriarchal dungeon.
Indian society today has a shining skin having all such qualities a developing
nation should have like independence, self realisation and self-confidence. The
new generation has also matured to understand the loop holes where to work on
to make India a healthy and better India. But despite all these accomplishments,
in the ground realities there is one fossilised thinking or we can say a rigid
subconscious approach in every Indian to compare and decide responsibilities
and roles of other people in their lives. This domineering mentality of disdaining
and looking down at partners is nothing but a cursed consequence of Indian
tampered culture that has number of incidents, anecdotes and rituals that
nowhere justifies equality that is humanity.
In many homes where the child has been growing up seeing mothers
feeding the family, running since morning till night to keep everything in
place and just right and still becoming the victim of the bashes of the man who
has to relieve his pressure from the outside world somehow, may turn the child into two
kinds of persons: one who thinks that it is the right of the woman to keep her
man happy that will make her home happy or the one who becomes silent enough to
confront any injustice further in his life like the victim did for his sake. In both the cases
such a child is not going to be an architect of inspiration: neither for himself,
nor for his family. And this is what is happening in almost every second home
where we have multiplying number of victims and induced victims. And if really
enduring a pain helps to heal the wound then make sure that the wound is not
contagious.
Beating up women of the house, tormenting them through the
indifference and scornful abuses and then justifying it with some excuses
proves that the person is mentally sick, impotent enough to discover his real
manhood that really is defined in terms of supporting the women in their lives,
sharing their needs and understanding them in the same manner as they are being understood and taken
best care of. The cases Amir showed today seem quite uncommon to a large
section of the society that can never think of such situations where their
lives would be controlled or adjudged and not shared and that too after the
most promising event of life,marraiage.The sufferers are the victims of this
deadly thinking that one has to be better to make the other and the
relationship 'best’. The rage of this false ego and illogical non acceptance of
equality kills the peace of family and fails to salute humanity that has parity
in every sphere of life.
All we need is to get this into mind that love comes when we
share and hatred comes when love is just demanded. I remember the lines of the
social activist on the show that let us all move on to look for life-partners
that are real men. If you are not happy, feel it and listen to what your heart
is really asking you to do because life is what you make it. Respect yourself,
respect your life, have respect for each other and then making choices would
become easy and the relationship that ways would be exemplary and a beautiful
communion of understanding and gifting real pleasures."Dont drag and bear the burden of not listening to
the life whisperers and falling at the feet of ego, envy and hatred as
you crawl towards the end of life because no one wants to be alone at the end."
